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Stevens reports that it’s this buy-in to the program that works and makes RIP different from others. “RIP is more of an educational setting versus a mental- health setting, which is not as intimidating to families,” says Stevens.
Parents gain new tools for their parenting tool kit. Some find their toddler responds to the “When/Then” technique: when you behave in a desirable way, then you will be rewarded. They learn how to word things and react to their child’s actions differently. One mom says it “wasn’t as much changing his behavior but our behavior, keeping frustration down and giving us control.”
Catherine’s favorite technique is using reward charts at home, where she focuses on rewarding desirable behaviors and ignoring unwanted ones. She uses the iReward app from iTunes. The app gives children immediate feedback with funny videos as they work towards their goal. She also found that giving her children clear direction worked better than telling them what not to do. In less than one month, her 5½-year-old went from having seven to eight tantrums and whining episodes a day to one to two. Catherine successfully uses the techniques with her older children as well.
Angie has learned to compliment good behavior as it happens. When she finds her children playing well together, she takes the time to give them positive feedback instead of slipping away in that quiet moment to do the dishes. When Angie first started the program, she tried ignoring bickering at home and was surprised when it worked. This encouraged her to learn and do more. Angie says her goal now is to always have a plan and pair unpleasant activities, like cleaning up a bedroom, with positive ones, like playing outside. “I’m not embarrassed to admit that I needed help,” Angie loves the results of the program and even uses the techniques with her high school students.
“The more you put in to the program, the more you get out of it,” encourages Stevens. Why wait until your child is 15 to work on problems that can be corrected at age 3 or 4? If you’re ready to put the time and effort into your child, give RIP a call.